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Thought for Today

September 1, 2011 2 comments

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Thought for Today

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Are We Wrong About Being Wrong?

July 29, 2011 2 comments

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  • Do you make mistakes? –> Who doesn’t?
  • How do you feel when you know you are wrong? –> I guess … not so great
  • Do you like to admit that you were wrong? –> noooo way
  • What will you do to avoid being wrong? We all know that people make mistakes but somehow when comes down to “us”…ok, when comes down to “me” (as individual) – I don’t want to make mistake.
    I found on TEDtalk a video – Kathryn Schulz: On being wrong. Kathryn is a wrongologist and talks about human fallibility.

To err is human. Yet most of us go through life tacitly assuming (and sometimes noisily insisting) that we are right about nearly everything, from the origins of the universe to how to load the dishwasher. If being wrong is so natural, why are we all so bad at imagining that our beliefs could be mistaken – and why do we typically react to our errors with surprise, denial, defensiveness and shame?

    Here’s the video from TEDtalk:
    Is there something wrong with us because we don’t like to admit that we are wrong? I don’t think so, according to Kathryn, we would like to insist that we are right because it makes us feel smart, responsible and SAFE. Of course I don’t want to admit that I’m wrong…it’s hard to do that but at the same time – I know I can make mistakes, and that’s the part of my life (my learning process).
    I am really glad that Kathryn mentioned that – our capacity to screwed up is not a defect. It’s fundamental to who we are. That’s good to know, because we are making a lot of mistakes. ohh and one more thing – we learn the lesson (sometimes) after making mistakes. And as St. Augustine said: “Fallor ergo sum” = “I err therefore I am” – I only hope that every time I make a mistake I will learn the lesson.

Kathryn asked what does it mean to feel right? It means that your believes perfectly reflect reality. Well, for me it means that I feel gooood, because I’m not wrong.

3 unfortunate assumptions, according to Kathryn, what we do when someone disagree with us:

  • The ignorance assumption –> we assume their are ignoramus

if that doesn’t work, even if they have the same facts as we do and they still disagree with us then …

  • The idiocy assumtion –> we assume they are idiots

if that doesn’t work, even if they are pretty smart and have the same data as we then …

  • The evil assumption –> those people disagree with us maliciously. They know the TRUTH and deliberately disagree

this attachment to our own rightness keep us from preventing mistakes when we absolutely need to and cause us to treat each other terribly.

The miracle of human mind isn’t that you can see world as it is and that you can see the world as it isn’t.

I have been wondering about that for a moment and after a while I thought “wow!” human mind is really cool thing ….just imagine 4 people looking at the sky by night, every each of them might see something different although all of them have been looking at the same sky. But they could see something like that:
sky by night

if you really want to discover wonder you need to step outside that tiny terrified space of rightness. And look around at each other and look out at the vastness and complexity and mystery of the universe and be able to say “wow, I don’t know, maybe I’m wrong!”

    …so next time when you look at something, think how others might see it
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Thought for Today

July 24, 2011 8 comments

Power of Words

July 17, 2011 3 comments

I am right

    Have you ever wondered how powerful words can be?
    ok ok, I won’t even start that “words can hurt”, I’d rather want to talk about the positive power of words:

check this youtube video:

Did you ever think how much power you have and how you can use it:

  • say something nice –> it’s not the end of the world to say something nice to your friends/co-workers. Don’t lie, just think if there is something nice you can say…and most of the time there is.
  • positive feedback –> it won’t hurt you if you give a positive feedback (of course if there is any, and usually there is). Don’t you think that we don’t need positive feedback?
  • encouragement –> big word (I know) but we need that. It’s great to give and receive that boost sometimes. That few words “you can do it” can help a lot.

I think that we are taking all the good things for granted sometimes. So maybe this time lets stop for a moment and think – what can I do/say (something GOOD) today?

7 Ways How to Improve Your Resume?

July 12, 2011 4 comments

…a lot!

    Did you check how your resume look like? When was the last time when you updated your resume? (and it doesn’t matter whether you have a job or you are looking for a job).

Did you google yourself? Not yet? Try it, find out what other people (potential employers or recruiters) can find about you on-line.

7 ways what you can do with your resume:

  • create it –> that’s good start, right? that’s just in case if you didn’t write one. Why you should do that? It’s good to collect all important information about your career (you never know when you might need it).
  • paper version –> classic. Do you know that some people do not have the paper version of their resume – why? because they don’t need to. But they still have resume – just in electronic version
  • .pdf / .doc files –> when you wrote your resume, remember to save it in few different type of files: .pdf – looks most professional (and you know that the recipient of your resume will see it exactly in the same layout as you) .doc (Microsoft Office Word) – some companies/recruiters ask for .doc version.
  • infographic –> yes it’s true, you can create your resume in different way. Here’s some great resumes (I found them via Mashable:

or

  • on-line resume –> on Linkedin profile, where you can contact with many other professionals from your area + all over the world
  • on-line resume –> flavors.me, your on-line business card, which can looks like this:
    flavor.me_sample
  • video resume –> ohh yes, yes you can record your own video resume. And you don’t have to be graphic designer nor movie director to create your own video-resume. You can simply do it yourself using applications available, e.g. videoBIO or use free apps like: youtube video or Windows Live Movie Maker, or many other apps.

Maybe you should think about adding charts to your resume – think what kind of charts/graphs you can create (and I believe you can). Don’t worry, it should be something simple. The reason why it’s good to add some charts is to drag someone’s attention. They won’t remember all the details you wrote but they will remember that chart where you presented some information, etc.

Few more How-tos upgrade your resume you can find on Mashable:

Mashable_Infographic_Modern_Resume

    Give your resume a boost and be more visible in professional world.

Don’t Let Them Stop You

July 10, 2011 2 comments

Seth Godin in his book “Linchpin” wrote classic quotes from resistance:

  • “I don’t have any good ideas”
  • “I don’t know what to do”
  • “I didn’t graduate from …”
  • “My boss won’t let me”
  • “well, that’s find for you, but my gender, race, health, religion, nationality, shoe size, handicap, or DNA don’t make it easy”

Have you every heard that before? That voice in your head which stops you from doing something, changing something? I bet every each of us can add more quotes to that. The question I have is:

    and what will you do about that?

Will you stop or will you try to find solution? Every time I’m going to provide presentation I feel 2 things:

  • that I will have heart attack –> I think I’m not good enough | I don’t know enough | they will laugh at me. It’s not easy to do anything when you feel something like that, right?
  • it’s great (not the heart attack) to be there are talk to people about something I love

Do you feel that you need to struggle and fight with that fear (called “the Lizard brain“)

Urban myth says if you poll a room for people’s greatest fears, the first will be speaking in public and the second will be fear of death. This phenomenon is not lost on the Lizard Brain. Concerned with its own survival, the Lizard Brain has adopted a role as counselor for our social survival. It remembers when we ‘crashed and burned’ in a social situation. It remembers the teacher who singled us out and made us look foolish in front of the class. But the Lizard Brain is not known for its finesse. In the Lizard Brain’s world, things are pretty black and white, and never our fault. This makes it a poor consul for the colorful stratosphere of human relationships.

I ask myself: How people react during and after my presentations? Answer (so far): good, they are happy, we talk, the discussion is interesting. I’m happy that I did it. But before the presentation (public speaking) – wow, I thought my heart will run out of my chest. After all, when I’m driving home or to the office after the presentation I giving myself a short feedback: what was good and what should I improve and unfortunately there is always the same part –> “why, ohh why was I so scared? There was no reason for that fear.”

    …so what to do?

important thing

    Don’t stop, try every time. Even if we feel that fear, we should try to fight it. We are in charge here, the Lizard won’t win this time. It’s me and my presentation/or whatever I do, and I can and will control it. It’s my success, my life – and some small/not important “Lizard brain” won’t win!

I need to repeat that over and over and over again, sometimes it works, sometimes not – but I won’t stop.

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